|I have always been a biter and a scratcher. Unfortunately I married…|
Mar. 14th, 2005 @ 10:11 pm
I have always been a biter and a scratcher. Unfortunately I married a man who isn't/wasn't into this. When we first started having sex I would do my thing, get wild and crazy with my biting and my scratching. Well after a few sessions I was asked to stop doing that as it didn't do anything for him, in fact it actually kinda made him wilt. Well, I turned to slapping his arms and flanks to keep from biting and that worked for a while but after a bit it made me want to go back to my old habits so I had to cut that out. After a while he started to withdraw from me sexually (would kinda brush off my advances) and well I married him anyway. Now we are having marital problems due to my sexual frustration and what is now a lack of sexual interest on my part. (I guess the years of being brushed off have taken their toll.) So after starting counseling he starts to realize all these things about himself. He starts to realize that he has had these blocks (Catholic upbringing and such) which caused him to pull away from sexual activity that was outside of the norm. NOW he realizes that he is into pain. NOW he starts with the self experimenting in the areas of pain. He actually asked me to bite him on the chest hard so he could see if he liked it. I am pretty sure I saw some instant wood on his part; however, now I no longer feel anything sexual for him. I am happy that he is finally finding out these things about himself, but the years of being told to hold myself in check have taken a toll on me. I LOVE to bite and scratch. There is nothing better than having a mouthful of my partners flesh with my nails sunk into their back as we move together. Why do people seem to think it is a crime to like to do this? I just can't understand how a Catholic upbringing would interfere with this. I can understand how it would affect ones interest in out and out BDSM but biting and scratching? To me that is just something that enhances the pleasure. I even love to have it reciprocated. To reach that point where I just want to sink my teeth into something means I am honestly enjoying myself. (When I have any alcohol I HAVE to bite people even if there is no sex involved. . . I wonder why sometimes.) I love to be able to know that under my clothing I bare the marks of my partner. I have a friend who is the same way. He is a doctor and he loves to know that under his white coat he is marked. Why does it seem that being a biter and scratcher is something that has to be hidden?
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles with your husband. My first husband did all that pulling away and brushing me off when we kissed. (What kinda problem is that??!) After awhile, I brushed him off in return and the rest was cold indifference.
Aw, I'm so sorry for your husband.
But, I too am a Christian (although I'm still young), and I love
to bite. I bite my friends (in a non-sexual way) and even my boyfriend (also in a non-sexual way) all the time. They think it's weird, except my boyfriend who likes it, but they don't really mind that much haha.
So I don't really know how being Catholic has to do with anything... O.o;
|Date:||August 1st, 2005 10:36 pm (UTC)|| |
I can relate
Hi, found this site and did a search and found some biters.. Cool...
I am a man and married a woman who is not a biter or scratcher. I knew this going in but she is a wonderful person so I felt I could get over it. I have never cheated on her but do fantasize about being bitten and scratched. It's been over two years since I had a girl sink her teeth and nails in me. Would love to find someone to email short stories bout biting and scratching..
I would love to hear some stories from you..
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